Married Black Men

She tells me, she’s ready to go, and i’m not so sure he’s aware of the gravity of the situation.  So, I’m left to wonder if I should talk to him or simply allow them to work it out for themselves, though I fear he may be making matters worse.  While, I do feel a certain obligation to sit him down and explain to him what’s going on in his marriage, I’m also keenly aware that he won’t deal particularly well with that type of conversation and I have to ask myself if I want play in that sandbox.   It would be easier to sit back and just let things play out, but I’m not sure – what would you do? Would you stand idly by or intervene?

While, there is also the possibility of them developing a unified front against you.  I’m sure many of you have seen that happen before – where someone with good intent tries to intervene in another relationship and next thing they know the couple develops a unified front against the individual.  In addition to the fact, that people have a tendency to avoid conflict and could disavow any knowledge of even mentioning they were “thinking about leaving” and that I must be “mistaken” and that perhaps i should mind my own business.  Well, perhaps that provides my answer, because if they were serious about leaving – wouldn’t they just leave?