Married Black Men

Many of us have an idea of how to treat our wives in a way that makes them feel like a lady. Well, at least that’s going to be the assumption for now, and perhaps I’ll focus on that very subject in another post. However, I often hear many men complain that women don’t know how to “let a man be a man”. Now, there are some cases where I definitely see how a husband can feel that way and most often it’s a very frustrating situation. I’ve seen wives belittling their husbands in public telling them “you know you can’t do x,y,z”, “PLEASE – You aren’t that good”, or treating their husband like a child and telling them they “better do x,y,z or else”. Now, as we read these and think about someone else, these situations do seem a little humorous, but when they happen to you – I’m sure “angry” becomes an insufficient adjective. (continue reading…)

When I think about “Being a Man” I think about my duties to provide financially for my household, to support my wife, and to take out the trash and all the other little details. Now, to “be a man” entails quite a number of things that I could never list in single blog post, but I think it’s important to understand that to “be a man” is a never ending process and journey. It’s clear that many of us were raised in single parent households with mothers leading the charge. If you were lucky to have a strong male role-model in your life, then perhaps you got the opportunity to have guidance on your route to being a man. However, what about those that didn’t? Those men that grew up predominately around woman with male exposure being similarly aged friends (whom themselves are still learning) perpetuating distorted images of masculinity and lacking the mature temperament of an adult male. So, as these men without male role models become husbands perhaps the road is a lot tougher and the amount of questions a lot greater, and we have to ask ourselves as “married black men” what are we doing to help these men lead their families?

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