Married Black Men

From time to time i’m going to post what i consider to be “Man Laws”. Feel free to share your personal “Man Laws” and comment on your favorites..

 Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.

 

Ok, it’s time to set the “hyper-masculinity” aside for a moment and discuss a topic I’ve been questioned about at various times in my life. 

 

What would you do if your wife cheated?

Typically, my immediate response would revolve around various actions such as assault, divorce papers, and some type of vandalism – (continue reading…)

 

You can be right or you can be happy?  This is a question that I never asked myself when my wife and I were dating.  Now, I find myself asking that question more often than not, and to be honest – being happy is far more important than being right.  The immediate thought for some is that I am continually surrendering my needs and desires to appease her needs and wants, but that isn’t the case.  Being happy usually means finding a compromise that inevitably makes the resolution far more palatable for both of us, and most importantly – gives us both a feeling of being understood and vested in the positive outcome of the situation.  Of course there are times when a unilateral or immediate decision may be required, but learning to share the responsibility of decision making can be of benefit for everyone.  I will be the first to admit that learning that skill was difficult for me, as I was used to doing what was best for me.   However, there comes a time when taking care of one’s family becomes paramount, and being right – just doesn’t seem to mean as much as being happy.